Change the following “you” messages into “I” messages. Remember that “I” messages state the speaker’s feelings rather than the listener’s intentions.

Example: “You made a fool out of me” becomes, “I felt really foolish when…”

….you totally ignored me.

…you don’t appreciate anything I do for you.

…you and Joanie always team up and don’t include anyone else in your games.

…you speak so much I can’t get a word in.

…this group never gets anything done.

…you are hostile to the leader.